An Ideal Relationship
To have an ideal relationship with the opposite sex and with the same sex are largely different. The demand for support, the afraid of loneliness, the need to be noticed would cause people to look for relationship. There are three layers in a optimal relationship, which are the first layer in life, the second layer in emotion, and the third layer in intellect(ideology).
As a male, I would like to introduce my point of view about having an ideal relationship with a female, and also with a male.
First Layer: An ideal relationship in life aspect.
Many people of the world have the ability to live without neither direct nor indirect support in life. “Support in life” includes the support of basic necessities of life such as clothing, eating, dwelling and travelling. And this kind of support largely comes from one thing, money. Therefore, we could roughly conclude that the support in life equals the support in finance.
What I want about the ideal relationship with a female in life, is obviously not depending on her completely financially. (Since I have NOT actually experience the sense of earning money, I could probably have a HUGELY wrong approximate about my capacity of earning money. Anyways, ) I would like to afford about seventy five percent of the financial demand of both of us. As a exchange, she would provide me (I couldn’t think up more.)
Second layer: An ideal relationship in emotional aspect.
Emotion is the, probably most demanded part for both adult and teenagers in relationships.
When I was having an ideal relationship with a female, we wouldn’t have something unable to say (unspeakable). Unspeakable, is the most terrible thing. Additionally, she would often come to chat with me actively and be able to leave when I ordered. The same rule is on me.
Moreover, we should be absolutely rational in conflict. A problem happens and the next step should be meticulously analyze the cause, punishment and solution from this problem. During the whole process of analysis, we shall have no emotion (explicitly expressed). The emotional demand (Such as demand for consolation) could be disposed after the problem (and this is necessary.)
What’s more is that she should actively seek for improvement in herself. I know that I’m a person that is fond of stronger person. The problem is that she should not exceed me much which could possibly beat down my confidence.
At last, it would be great if she comes to encourage me usually. And, from my own desire, I hope she could tell me that I was doing well already, all the time.
An ideal emotional relationship with a male would be rather similar with the relationship with a female. Here are some differences.
I would like to find a man that is able to talk with his internal problems instead of a male with a strong appearance but a weak heart. It is ok for both of us to discuss the internal mental issues. And the reason why I have constantly mental burnout is partly because I have no people that could entirely open up with me (except from my parents).
Another difference is that more fun and pleasure could be made from two men. We could grab out more, talking jokes more and compete more. The ideal male figure should be humorous and he should give some chances for me to exert my humor too.
And that is the ideal emotional relationship each with a female and a male.
Third layer: An ideal relationship in intellectual (wisdom) aspect.
“Intellectual echo” is the desire of each person from the deepest part of their subconscious mind. However, the result is that there are many people focusing on the first two layers and forgetting this pivotal layer.
It’s obviously NOT common to meet a person with the inwardly same heart that could ideologically have the same channel with you all the time. Therefore, the gender is not so divergent. (Actually, meeting with a female would be more excited).
The major advantage of communicating with a intellectually similar person is that we could be both foils to each other. When I have a radical or inaccurate speech, he/she could EXACTLY point out my disadvantages and I could readily agree with he/she because I have the same ideology with him (Then, I would agree with his point about my problems.), vice versa.
Furthermore, I could get the consolation or encouragement I exactly want through him/her, since he/she know what I demand, what I am fond of and what I am agree with.